Baby Talk

On November 16, 2011 by Sarah

As most of you know, I had a miscarriage in August.

I know…I’m weird…I talk about it.

Although I don’t buy the whole “everything happens for a reason” bologna, I do believe that good can come out of even the worst of situations.  Although good may not be great, it’s better than bad.  You get me?  I knew that you would!

What’s the good, you ask?  Well, I consider helping others as good….I hope to do just that.

Since having a miscarriage is a seriously taboo topic (who knew?  trust me – I’ve found out that it is), I’ve had a hard time finding anyone with whom to relate. I’m a big blog follower and I found that there’s not much out there about women’s personal miscarriage experiences.  Seeing as miscarriages are incredibly common…this made me incredibly annoyed.  As we all know, not talking about particular taboo issues breeds shame.  like a weed.  and I am not having it.

[Here comes the good.]

My first blog just went live as a guest blogger on Babycenter.com [enter goosebumps – this is kind of a big deal for me!].  There will be 6 posts altogether over the next few weeks where I talk candidly about the devastating ins and outs of enduring a miscarriage…from finding out, to what it’s been like to go through, and finally to where we hope to go from here.

 

Please check out the first post and follow our journey.  Maybe this opportunity will turn into something non-guestlike.  A girl can dream!!!  

Thank you for all of your positivity and support.  I love my blog family!

 

 

p.s. The brother in-law comes in 3 days; the brother in 5!  Check out our forecast =)

p.s.s. Congrats to one of my best friends, Kristen, on her new baby girl Caroline Emily!!!!!!  ♥

 

 

 

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COMMENTS

Melissa

Wow Sarah, you are so brave to share… I just read all the wonderful responses people left on your guest post. Your baby will come, I’m sure your dad will make sure of that, I still can’t wait until you are preggers! You are going to be an adorable pregnant woman. :)

Heidi

Wow hun… love the article. I can’t wait to read all about it since I can’t be near you. You are on your way… I think your dreams just may come true!
Love ya!

christina

You are right — something good will always come out of a negative situation, as long as you let it. You have a positive outlook on life, and great things are coming from you. YOU KNOW THIS. And, don’t forget, you have AN ANGEL above you. :) :) xoxooxxo and big huge congrats on your article. I’m off to read it now.

Christina D

Nicely done!! :) So proud of you for being so open about it

Sabrina Houser

You are so brave. What an amazing idea. This leaves such a hole in your heart and a feeling of blame. I am so happy to see that you are taking the healthy approach. This baby will come to you both. That much I know.

    Sarah

    Thank you, Sabrina. We have good days and bad, but we are trying to stay positive. We long for this baby – but know that we have no control. Thank you for the kind words. =)

Sue C

So proud to call you my daughter…and you know I also had a miscarriage….and it was never “meant to be” XOXO

lindsay

you are NOT weird for talking about it! i have several friends that have miscarried. and unfortunately it is quite common and yet so many women are ashamed to talk openly about it. miscarrying is nothing to be ashamed about and women should talk about it…i think it helps in the healing process.

    Sarah

    Talking about it has definitely helped the healing process. It is a loss and we have been grieving. Thank you for telling me that I’m not weird…but I am so am (for this reason and MANY others, haha)!

Regina

Amazing and groundbreaking writing-you will likely touch more people than you’ll ever know.

Rebekah

I found your blog from your babycenter post, and it’s relieving to read someone’s honest view of having a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in the Spring of 2010, and it was so hard not to blame myself, and to just hear people gloss over – “everything happens for a reason” or “it’s really common” or even less sensitive “at least you weren’t very far along”. It’s devastating, and I remember just sitting in my car and crying on the phone with my husband – not even able to drive myself home. I’m glad you’ve found an outlet – because I think so many people just gloss it over and don’t deal with their feelings and never heal because they are told it’s not a true loss. It is a loss and I still grieve for our lost child – but I like to think that our child just wasn’t ready to be born yet. We did go onto to have a successful pregnancy and I like think that’s when our child was ready to meet the world. Also – for what it’s worth, I felt extremely jealous of everyone having a child during that time – I think that’s completely normal.

    Sarah

    I’m so sorry for all that you’ve been through, Rebekah. I totally relate to what you’re saying. That was and always will be our first child. We are hopeful for good news in the near future. Thank you for writing!!!

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